45 Life Lessons from someone very wise...

We have been in Korea for a little over 2 weeks now. If any of you have been following me on Instagram, you probably think that I have landed in an incredible world full of gorgeous stationery, makeup for miles, and pretty things everywhere I look. The truth is that there are a lot of things that go on in a day that are far from wonderful here. Arriving in Korea, and living here, you are emerging yourself in a culture so far removed from anything you will have experienced before. There are days when I question our lives here, there are days when I want to strangle some of my students and kick them out of class, days when I want to shake my co-teacher and shout at her to stop smiling at me when she doesn't understand a word I've said. 

What starts to matter is the small things in life. The little old lady I meet on my walk to school. The small piece of shade I walk under for the last 10 minutes of my walk. The fan above me the staff room, and all the things my hubby does for me in the morning when we get ready for work. Our lives here, at least while we await our first paycheck, are very different from back home, not only do you start to appreciate things back home, but I've also grown to appreciate other South Africans so much more. Even though things can be pretty tough here (the language barrier has a lot to do with it, and the levels of respect in society - being able to give your opinion has become a luxury here) we have found every other South African we know to be very positive about life. Very rarely have we come across another South African who moans and complains about Korea. South Korea is our home, we are treated very well here, and in return they expect us to give our best in everything. It's a give and take situation, where a lot of other foreigners do a lot more taking than giving. I came across these 45 life lessons on Facebook today, they have reminded me of how we should try and live our lives, wherever we are in the world, and I wanted to share them with you...

Written by Regina Brett

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 50 this year, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short – enjoy it.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don't worry, God never blinks.

16.. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19.. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need

42. The best is yet to come...

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

Lovely, don't you think?

Korean coffee shops...

This weekend hubby and I went off exploring one of the big cities surrounding our rice paddy town. Bright lights and glitzy stores, we felt like we were in the middle of New york (or at least somewhere very exciting) as everyday life in Buan (our town) is far from glitzy. We stumbled across this incredibly cute little cafe, while taking cover from the rain. Why aren't there more of these sorts of places back home in South Africa? Maybe thats what Farmboy and I will do when we get back, open up some Korean Cafe's...hmmm.


Don't you just love the name...'No Riter'? Koreans, as most Asians, struggle with their 'r' and 'l's and so what I'm sure is supposed to say "No Litter" becomes, well 'No Riter'...cute man.

Joining in: {Wine Circle}

Farmboy and I have been staying on the farm to enjoy family time with his family before heading to Joburg to see mine. On Thursday we leave South Africa, so we are lapping up as much farm/family/sun/food/wine as we can.
Here are a few snaps from wine circle, which happens once a month or so with a lovely group of local Creighton ladies and gents.
Im so mad at myself that the last group photo came out blurred...I am blaming all the wine (thats my excuse and I am sticking with it!) In between lots of laughter and good conversation, we got to sip a load few different wines and enjoy a wonderful evening with a lot of fun locals. 
Thanks for having us Creighton!


Flat White Concepts {Magazine}



I was so excited to get in touch with Christine from Flat White Concepts about being involved in one of her online magazine editions. After some creative email brainstorming, Farmboy and I decided to write up our recent road trip from Cape Town to Pietermaritzburg and include a bunch of Instagram pics. If you'd like to read the full article, then head on over to Flat White Concepts to read their free online magazine (we are in the June edition).

Christine, thanks so much for including me in your wonderful magazine! I look forward to hopefully contributing more (even if it will be from Asia!).
xxx

{Cute Kitties} Sharon Montrose

Seriously?! I don't even have words for the amount of cuteness in each and every one of these photographs, and these are just the kitties...there are lions and tigers and bears oh my!

I LOVE MY JOB.

I’VE HAD THE SAME BEST FRIEND FOR 26 YEARS.

I GOOGLE EVERYTHING.

I’M ALWAYS COLD.

I RIDE MY BIKE.



"Melding her passion for photography with her love of animals, Sharon Montrose's definitive photographic style has made her one of the most sought-after commercial photographers specializing in animals for over a decade. In addition to eleven published photography books to her credit, Sharon shoots for some of the world’s foremost pet industry brands. Her animal series photographs are part of numerous public and private collections, including The Sir Elton John Photography Collection and have been awarded recognition by Communication Arts, Photo District News, The Art of Photography, Hey, Hot Shot!, and the International Photography Awards."


Sharon sells an incredible collection of prints through her online store {The Animal Print Shop} and I want each and every single one. See more about Sharon here.

{Tea for Two}

A few images from a new Pinterest Board I am creating...I'm loving all the neutral shades

 {I wish it was easier to find the correct source for each of these images, however things are pinned too easily on Pinterest without giving the correct credit...so if any of these images below are yours, please drop me a line here and I will either take it down or pop a link to your site} 

Greek doors...

A selection of photographs of the doors we walked past and through while on our honeymoon in Greece last year...each and every one had a story to tell, be it through colour, texture, position or age. Each day we stumbled across more and more closed doors, holding secrets we would never know.



Coffee & Pancakes

Last night Farmboy and I decided to have a {coffee & pancake} evening after perfecting the perfect pancake recipe last week. Lots of sweet fillings and good company made for a delightful evening. Go on, treat yourself to a little light and fluffy indulgence...

Candy & Clyde say I do...

A few photographs of Candy & Clydes wedding that took place in early January in Bulawayo, Zimbabwe. The weather did not cooperate (being Zim we were all prepared for mid to high temperatures of 35C and upwards! But instead got rain and clouds for three days!).
Even still, it was such a special occasion, one filled with love and laughter and lots of God.
Candy & Clyde, it was such an honour to be there at your wedding, thank you for having us!
{I have just started a new Facebook page as a way of showcasing some of my photography...the name of it is RoxyPictures. I'd love it if you stopped over there and said hello...click here to visit RoxyPictures}

Farm Snaps...

A few snaps from our lovely relaxing weekend on Farmboy's family dairy farm!

{I hope you like my new branding & watermark! I have gone from CityGirlSearching Photography to RoxyPictures! You can see more of my work on my Facebook page here}


{New Friends}

I have known Rachel for about a week now. It's funny how sometimes people just wander into your life unexpectedly, and I mean in the good way. A few days ago Rachel she told me she would be in the Pietermaritzburg area and I told her i'd love to meet for coffee. 
We did just that. And talked non-stop for hours.
Then she introduced me to her good friend CC, who is the incredible photographer behind CC Rossler Photography right here in Durban. Here are some photo's CC took of Rachel & her soon to hubby Elijah on their engagement shoot in Westville.
Aren't they just lovely?! {the actual photographs and the subjects themselves!)


You can visit Rachels blog "And Aussie in Africa" by clicking here :)

{Roadtrip} to Zimbabwe

Early January, Farmboy & I headed off on a road trip to Bulawayo, Zimbabwe for two very special friends wedding. Farmboy had very limited leave, so it was a very quick trip (well as fast as 1200 k's there and another 1200 k's back can be).

After getting all our documents sorted (gosh there are so many details to have sorted when crossing the Zim border!) we were on our way! 
After hearing horrific things about the Beit Bridge border post, we went through Botswana, and into Zim through Plumtree. We had no issues at either of the borders, and apart from my car battery dying on the way back and having to push start every time we stopped, the trip went off without a hitch. 

Nothing like exploring a bit of Africa...

A cup of tea & a good book...

I came across these incredible photographs on a website I head to for creative inspiration...Craftgawker.

This series of photo's were inspired by the love of a good book.  Canadian photographer Joel Robinson invites the viewer to curl up with a good book and a cup of tea and get lost in the world of the whimsical. As I have done nothing but get lost in all sorts of weird and wonderful books this last holiday, these images really appealed to me.
Aren't they fantastic!?
  

Thinking of {Greece}

It's been nearly 3 months since our honeymoon in Greece, and also nearly 3 months of being married (click here to see posts about our wedding)...gosh time really does fly when you're having fun!

Here are a few highlights from our Honeymoon trip to Athens, Santorini & Naxos in October this year.

A little bit of beach...

Here in South Africa we had a lovely long weekend (a great way for some of the country to get started on their Christmas holidays!). Unfortunately, my hubby has to work until Friday. But thats only 3 sleeps away...yippee!

We spent the long weekend at Zinkwazi Beach (just up the North Coast, a little but further up North from Ballito).

Here are a few snaps from our time away
xxx